White Rose's Adventures

Growing Older & being 40 Something

Breaking a cycle or bad habit in your life is not an easy thing to do. As we get older we get more and more set in our ways. Between the job, our hobbies, friends and just trying to live life, we seem to fall into a routine that works for tending to all these needs. As different friends float in and out of our life or a change in our hobbies, job or geographical location happens, we adjust our daily life routines. It could be something as simple as we have to get up and hour earlier to get to work because we have to find a different route due to something going on with the roads. Or maybe there is a show on TV that we “just can’t miss” and need to go straight home from work or adjust our bedtime to make sure we see it. But then again it could be something a bit bigger like a friend is going through a very difficult time in their life and needs our strong shoulders to lean on. As their friend, we feel that we have to be there for them no matter what, because that is what friends are for, and you may need them to do the same for you one day. As life goes on, there are changes in our routine that have to be made, big or small, weather we like it or not.

We are creatures of habit and routine. We like the comfortable feeling of knowing what we are going to do and when we are going to do it. Spontaneity is not a quality that everyone has. Yes, once in a while we may do something that is out of our habit, routine and character, but for the most part many of us get stuck in a rut and either don’t know it, or can’t find a way to get out of it.

But what about the big questions that come along in life and want to interfere with our routine. Do we get stagnant in our life and become that boring old person down the street that the 20 & 30 somethings hope they will never become? As years pass by, do we give up our hopes or dreams believing that they are for the young and life has settled in on us so much that it would be to much of a shock to our system if we went for it? If we are single and have been for several years, do we get so set in our ways and routine that it makes it hard to have a relationship with someone beyond friendship?